Judging and sorting people around your view of life is the most efficient way to reinforce your assumptions on someone. We think of others as mirrors on which we base our imperative view of the world. That view is everything that we revolve around. It’s limited by the experiences, logic, and emotions that we choose to accept or not.
Most people don’t feel the need of intensely scrutinizing why they have developed the judgments they have. For them, it’s something natural, whether good or bad, its something they only know of, sorting everyone they come across into the categories that they deem fit. When you tell such people that their universe is limited by their perception of it, they feel threatened and throw up a number of defenses, from dismissal to ridicule to outright hostility. They insist there is one real reality and that to suggest otherwise is ‘crazy.’ They conclude your idea is admissible only to the extent to which they are comfortable and continue to make judgments and projections.
What we should be doing is trying to make ourselves into better people, so instead of looking at others who are different from us and judging them we should acknowledge their differences, appreciate the diversity and accept that others too, have a say, that others too have a right to live their life as they please and we are no one to judge them or categorize them in any prejudice way. But then again when it is good to judge others?
To judge means to form an opinion or make a conclusion about something. That is a process of thought. If you become nonjudgmental, you lose your own perspective of life.
It is wrong to judge others when your purpose for doing so is to put them down, degrade them, de-humanize them, or consciously ruin and tear down their reputation or character.
You are, whether you accept it or not, constantly judging others. We structure our opinion with what we were taught, with what our life revolves around and with what our conscious feels satisfied with. You run into problems when you let those judgments rule your actions and force your opinions just to justify it.
When you are clear that your motive for judging is not coming from that devil that wants to throw someone under the train, but, rather, it comes from the better part of your perception, that will make key distinctions that will help either you or someone else- then that’s how you know when it is okay to judge.
Written by: M. Alam (PS Member)